Heavy heart, shivering hands, and tearful eyes, I finally brushed up my courage to pen down this experience of so many friends and friends-of-friends right after a couple of days of 8th March “The World Women Day.”I often talk to myself when overloaded with the queries, “when would you get married?” Who knows when!
Getting married at the right age, that is most probably the “landing time of the girls in this world” 
for some girls or getting married late “after achieving some career goals,” But what is left in between these two extremes? I think it is getting married to the right person at the right time engraved by nature. Cool instinct.
Marriage; a noble duty, embark on a family, and a support system for both the involvers. But is it just this in our society? No, Please rewind it! In our society, to some extent, Marriage is leaving your daughter loaded with a dowry to thankless people who would consider your daughter everything but not a daughter.
Why am I writing this? What triggered me too much to touch this issue? A good friend of mine to whom I can never imagine will be facing such a typical “Susral Walay” issue. I was awestruck when I heard her sufferings and how she dealt with “Susral walay” issues in one year of her marriage and pregnancy period. Where Saas is a typical saas, but “Susar” is more than a Saas.
“You are just allowed to meet your parents once a week, you are not allowed to go outside often, you can’t do this without SAAS SUSAR’s permission, and you are just supposed to serve the entire SUSRAL; tirelessly.” Okay, it is fine and maybe normal in our society. The abnormality starts when your parents are not allowed to meet and own their grandchildren; you are insulted in front of the entire family just letting your father take your son to the doctor, and so more.
I wonder what such people will be doing before their son’s marriage? Pity on them to be so helpless, dependant, and useless to takeout someone’s freedom and ruling out of their so-called feeling of the running kingdom.
I knew this girl, being so simple and innocent yet intelligent, educated, and full of life. I got her to know during the short training and turned up to a very good friend soon (The reason: we got the same nature actually).
These are the reasons Why the word Susral always giving cage-like vibes? Where so many freedom birds are caged and waiting to flyout one day. When we talk about such so-called “normalities” in susral, the husband is the real guilty in this case.
No one is allowed to take out her freedom to meet her parents and her son to meet his grandparents. What should such husbands be called? I can’t say them “mard,” at least. I need to suggest something else for a cowardly person who can’t shield and own his wife in front of his parents and family. Total Junk!
What can I do for her? It might be nothing except for giving her advice, “Please don’t be a Saas like this in the Future” Someone has to break this streak. I will always be there for you for your emotional support; you are more than a sister.
When I just told her, “Yar, I am going to write a post for you. That she replied, “ han, han, poora drama likh lo I have a long list itny zulam hain 99 episodes bn jaen ge. Ab to mje rona b nai ata” she shredded my heart in 1000 pieces at that time.
To people, Please Please, For Heaven Sake, don’t make someone’s life hell; you can’t imagine how parents of such daughters pass on their days and nights. They are old, leaving their daughters to such thankless people; they are already in upsetness. Stop being Gods!
Well, it is Scary Enough to make me think twice before going to get married. Let destiny take a ride!
Remz Words 